THE COMPANY YOU KEEP

Do you want to make some changes in your life? Looking to start a business? Change careers? Make more money? Have a better marriage? Well, aside from reading books on the subject and doing research on the web, the best way to make a change is to find someone who has what you want and talk to them! Interview the business owner about her experiences as an entrepreneur. Take the guy out to lunch who can teach you about investments. Talk to your grandparents about what it took to stay married for 50 years. Look for inspiration from the people who have already started down the path you are embarking on. They've made mistakes that you can learn from. They can pass on tips to help you stay focused on your goal. Most importantly, they can help you to see that what you want really is possible.

STRESSED OUT???

Who isn't stressed out these days, I wonder!! I was hanging out with my 13 year old step son asking him all about what is going on in his life ("nothin much" was as far as I could get) when I hit on a subject that perked him up....video games. "So", I ask, "what do you love about playing video games?" Know what he said? The number 1 reason he liked playing video games was because it calmed him down when he was stressed out and didn't feel like thinking. STRESSED OUT? School is not even in session and this kid is stressed out? Where did he learn about high stess levels and why does he think this is the best way to lower them? What is he anxious about? So, it got me thinking......


We all carry around worries and concerns that we need to deal with daily. How many times have we said to other people that we just can't take it--we are frustated, unhappy or just plain exhausted. What is it we reach for when we feel this way? Some go off to the gym. Some to the bar. Some to a friends house or out for coffee. Some block everyone out and withdraw.

What are we teaching out kids about managing anxiety? What are we teaching each other about finding our center and feeling calm? When did thinking and feeling become so undesirable and painful?

"The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem." --Theodore Rubin

I love that quote because it really offers another perspective on how we can view issues that confront us. Tuning out and turning off are valuable tools to have to lower stress levels from time to time but let's not stop there. We are capable of coming up with so many other ways of dealing with life's "problems". What would be possible if we encouraged our our kids (and one another) to reconnect and really listen to what is going on inside of us? Is there something we need more of in our lives? Less of? Sometimes, we may want to choose nurturing over numbing...

"Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared to believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance."----Bruce Barton

• JUST SAY NO! Breaking your own rules... Do you sometimes feel like a prisioner to the rules you have created for yourself in life? It's that pesky set of regulations we all employ in order to keep us living the way we are suppose to live . Sometimes, the rules reflect a variety of "shoulds" and "musts" wrapped up in a package of guilt and obligation. We may pick up other peoples' rules and try our best to fulfill their way of living. I am continually trying to evaluate if what I am imposing on myself is truly a reflection of my values or is someonelse's influencing my decision making. Women especially have struggled with the idea that they must be everything to everyone (a very popular rule these days!) and it leaves many with a depletion of energy, a scarcity of time and an abundance of resentment. So, let's look at the rules. When it comes down to it, they do not need to be catagorized as good or bad but we can simply ask ourselves if they are a reflection of what we value. Some rules in life allow us to hold ourselves to a higher standard and give us a sense of accomplishment and others deplete us and keep us in a cycle of obligation. But here is the cool thing: WE GET TO DECIDE WHAT STAYS, WHAT GOES AND WHICH RULES GET BENT (ever so slightly!). How would it be to take an inventory of all the crazy rules we live by and consciously re-examine if they still fit our lives? How would it be to give yourself the time, space and PERMISSION to take your power back and choose what rules you would like to have working for you? (rather than you working for them) So, let's all take a deep breath and BREAK SOME RULES!! The possibilities are endless...

WE ALREADY HAVE ALL THAT WE NEED TO PURSUE OUR DREAMS.............................WoW What a concept! Tony Robbins famously coined the term "No Excuses Policy" and it refers to the state of mind we can all adopt when we decide we are sick and tired of standing in our own way. How would it be to decide that in fact at this moment you do have enough money, time and resources to move toward your vision, that you are already the perfect weight, you are not too old (or young) people do want to hear what you have to say, you are not being silly and you are exactly where you need to be to make a bold move to a more fulfilling life (as defined by YOU!) Oh no! No More Excuses! In my own life, that would mean adopting a more critical eye (and ear) when facing down my limiting beliefs. Sometimes the voice I listen to is masquerading around as a protector or the "wise voice of reality" when really it is just another insecurity encouraging me to listen to yet another excuse. So, what would be possible if we all adopted a "No excuse Policy" for a day? A week? A month? What could shift in your life?

Potential--That is a word I have been thinking alot about lately. I have been reading an amazing book called "The other 90%" by Robert K. Cooper and according to him, we only use about 10 % of the power and potential we have inside of us. What about the other 90% in deed! What is it exactly that prevents us from seeing ourselves as whole beings with not only the means but the ability to manifest anything that we desire in life. Many would say they lack the support, lack the time and of course the money (always a biggie) but is that the truth? I have often held back my best, suppressed my passion and sold myself short all in the name of "lack". And what does living in "lack" get you? More lack!! It is a cycle that is hard to break as most everyone around us will concur. We live in a scarcity mentality--always told to "play safe", not dream too big, don't desire too much and only expect to receive what others will give you. But what if we are not built that way? What if nature meant for us to be bold, get messy, experiment with the world around us and most of all FOLLOW OUR POWER and tap fully into our potential. What would happen if we could stand in the belief that we already know what is best for us in our lives and actually honor ourselves by following our power rather than hiding as our power tries to find us. Where ever we are in life at this moment is exactly where we need to be in order to move to the next place and YOU ALREADY HAVE ALL THAT YOU NEED. Now all we have to decide is what will lead us next. Will it be fear? External forces? Excuses? Or will we tap into the other 90%......

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Hello everyone and welcome to my first blog! If I can do this, well, I guess anyone can figure this out! So here goes...I am very exited to create this blog as a resource site for anyone who needs a little dose of inspiration from time to time. Because I am a life coach and motivational speaker, I am continually looking for ways to encourage people to follow their passion in life and face down the negative forces which try to hold them back. With support, acknowlegement and accountability, how far could you go? What are the dreams you have for your life? What makes you happy? What have you left behind along the way because fear crept in and redirected your path? Finding your purpose, living with integrity and honoring your values can be the hardest yet most rewarding journey you can embark on. I hope this blog serves to help you as you courageously make your way back to your dreams, your passion and your true self. Shine on...